I was an adopted child. If you were adopted you understand the loneliness of being the first in your lineage- We know how Adam and Eve felt.  You know of no one on the planet who is related to you. This is my story and some tips to help you look if you were adopted and trying to find your roots. If you placed someone for adoption there is help here too. I was 20 when I met another person sharing the same DNA- my newborn son.  3 years later my daughter was born and I went for 27 more years before getting my records open and meeting my birth family.

Post, Post, post.  Get your information out there. There was a post on adoption.com the other day about a girl who had looked for 10 years for her parents. I recognized the boy’s name and age was right. Looking through my old alumni books I found the Mother’s name.  In about 24 hrs I had emailed the girl with the name address and phone no’s of who I thought was her parents.  I was right. She contacted the girl and indeed it was her Mother. So post- you never know who will help you make that link. But also beware of those who want to charge to help you.  Get some references first.

Ever since I was about 9 years old when my Step mother told me I was adopted I have wondered about where I came from. It seemed I wasn’t a whole person.  I was missing something that told me who I was. I had a good life with my adopted father- my adopted mother died when I was 5 and a dear loving aunt took care of me until Dad remarried.  I never wanted for anything but it just seemed like something was missing.

I tried to find out where I came from but my A. Dad didn’t like to talk about it.  After I found out I wondered if being from the “old School” he didn’t want to talk about it because my B.Mom never married B. Dad cause he was already married or because he and my A. Mother lied on the adoption papers about their age when they adopted me.  They were probably too old to adopt a child if the truth had been known.

When I met my husband in College I told him I was adopted and didn’t know where I came from. Little did I know we were closer that we thought.  It turned out my Dad and his parents were from the same small town in Oklahoma. Unfortunately we didn’t find out until after they were all gone. Fortunately we aren’t related.

About every 4 years for the last 20 years I contacted one lawyer after another only to be told you couldn’t get your records open in Ok.  It was only after the insistence of a good friend that I should take this serious as I wasn’t getting any younger and neither were my parents.  By this time we had Internet service and I found a link telling me about the Adoption Registry in OK, and that started it all rolling.  They couldn’t find anything but from their information I was able to get my records open.

Start with the DHS Adoption Registry Cost was $20.00 to register.

To read more about my search click here My Search.  To get some tips to help you search look here Tips

I do not think children should be kept from knowing about their biological roots. Medical history and genealogy should be available to them somehow.

Where to look- click here for more information

Oorah web page about opening adoption records in Oklahoma.

Adoption.com is an excellent web site for all kinds of adoptions information.

laws.adoption.com to find out the laws in your state

AdoptionSites.com you can find a link to almost anything about adoption on this page.